(ANN/THE STAR) – In today’s fast-paced world, many adults find themselves caught between the responsibilities of caring for their ageing parents while raising their own young children. This dual role, known as the Sandwich Generation, presents unique challenges that require balancing caregiving, parenting, work, and personal time.
As this demographic grows globally, those in the Sandwich Generation often face significant pressures, including financial strain, time management issues, emotional stress, and the challenge of meeting the diverse needs of two very different generations. Recognising and understanding these challenges is the first step towards finding effective solutions.
In Malaysia, where cultural values emphasise filial piety, it’s common for extended families to live under one roof. According to the Fifth Malaysian Population and Family Survey by the National Population and Family Development Board, 70 per cent of elderly Malaysians live with their children or extended family members. While this tradition fosters close family ties, it also brings its own set of challenges.
For those in the Sandwich Generation, managing finances and time can be particularly demanding. However, with careful planning and thoughtful strategies, it is possible to navigate this complex situation. Here are some practical tips to help you on this journey:
Practise open communication and planning
Effective communication is key. Sit down with your family members to discuss expectations, roles, and responsibilities. Creating a schedule that balances caregiving, parenting, work, and personal time is essential. Be flexible and open to adjustments as circumstances change.
Delegate responsibilities
If possible, share caregiving duties with other family members. Divide tasks based on each person’s strengths and availability. Involving your spouse, siblings, children, and even friends in tasks like meal preparation, errands, or household chores can help lighten the load.
Utilise support services
Explore community resources such as home healthcare, meal delivery services, or adult day care programmes for your ageing parents. Joining local support groups or online communities can also provide valuable insights and a sense of camaraderie with others in similar situations.
Financial planning
Work with a financial advisor to plan for the costs associated with caring for both your parents and your children. This may involve setting up budgets, exploring insurance options, and considering long-term care plans to ensure financial stability.
Prioritise self-care
Taking care of yourself is crucial. Ensure you make time for self-care and personal interests, whether it’s reading a book, taking a walk, or pursuing a hobby. Regular self-care helps recharge your physical and emotional energy, allowing you to better care for your loved ones.
Give and receive support
Being a supportive partner is essential in navigating the challenges of the Sandwich Generation. Sharing responsibilities and being a reliable source of support for each other ensures that tasks are managed even when life demands your focus elsewhere.
7. Maintain a healthy work-life balance
Discuss flexible work arrangements with your employer, such as remote work, flexible hours, or reduced schedules. These options can help you better manage your caregiving and parenting responsibilities without compromising your job performance.
While being part of the Sandwich Generation can be challenging, it is possible to strike a balance that meets the needs of all family members. Don’t hesitate to seek support from community resources, friends, and family to make this journey smoother. Remember to take things one step at a time, and know that you’re doing your best in a demanding situation. – ALEXIUS CHEANG
